15Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!

Song of Songs 2:15

There is one other place in scripture where foxes are utilized to ruin the crops. Check this out . . .

4Then he went out and caught 300 foxes. He tied their tails together in pairs, and he fastened a torch to each pair of tails. 5Then he lit the torches and let the foxes run through the grain fields of the Philistines. He burned all their grain to the ground, including the sheaves and the uncut grain. He also destroyed their vineyards and olive groves.

Judges 15:4-5

If you have time, read the whole story in Judges 14 and 15. If not, here is the cliff notes version – this is a story of Samson’s anger unchecked. He marries a woman his parents don’t approve of and during the wedding festivities, he gives 30 men a riddle they can’t solve until they blackmail Samson’s new wife to get the answer. When they answer correctly, Samson is furious and leaves his wife with her father and returns home. Later, he decides he needs a conjugal visit but her father has given her to someone else. Again, Samson is furious. And he ruins the fields of the Philistines with foxes.

Another illustration of foxes in the vineyard – in this case, also in the grain fields. It is Samson’s anger and, perhaps his pride, that gets him in to trouble in the first place. And it is his anger that causes him to vengefully destroy the fields, vineyards and olive groves of the Philistines.

Pride, with the anger that often accompanies it, is the little fox. The other side of pride’s coin is humility. Humility is defined as “having a consciousness of one’s shortcomings or defects, modest, not proud and not self-assertive.” Samson didn’t seem to be cognizant of his defects – he thought himself invincible.

Applying the antidote for pride is two-pronged. First, the responsibility to be humble lies with the individual. James puts it like this

. . . As the Scriptures say,“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”7So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8Come close to God, and God will come close to you.

James 4:6-8

One must humble herself before God. That simply means recognizing her faults, shortcomings and defects. By the way, we all have them so it shouldn’t be that hard. But for some reason, it is.

The second prong, tightly wound to the first, is living like Jesus. Check this out

5You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. 6Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. 7Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being.

Philippians 2:5-7

Here’s the truth. I’m really not that important. Jesus was actually important yet he chose to lay that aside and become a human! Now that’s humility.

Here’s my problem. I want to be important in the eyes of . . . someone. So, I develop an attitude of pride about my skills, abilities, gifts, possessions, position – something. I need you to believe I am important.

Jesus said, “I know who I am and what you think about me doesn’t matter.” He chose to put himself in a position of humility.

How do you start? I believe it is best accomplished by asking Jesus this question, “How did you humble yourself?” In his answer is all you need to know.

My prediction is that very few will stop to actually ask Jesus that question and converse with him about it. That’s okay. It only affects the here and now. But for those who do, be prepared for some really life changing interaction with the Creator of the world!

Happy Hump Day!

In a season of change, it seems there is a lot of mess before there is order. As I shared yesterday, even changing decor from one season to the next is chaotic.

Consider the day you decide to organize THE closet. Two hours later, everything looks much worse than when you started. Keeping at it is key. Discarding coats, hats and boots that don’t fit anymore or sorting bedding to donate from the bed you don’t own anymore takes time. Once it’s done, order is restored and the closet breathes a happy sigh of relief!

It’s the little foxes!

15Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!

Song of Songs 2:15

Grudges – another little fox that ruins the vineyard. I like to think that I am forebearing – that’s a fancy word that encompasses the idea of patience, tolerance and restraint. I rarely get angry but when I get my knickers in a twist it takes way too long for them to get straightened out. Even after they are smoothly sitting where they ought to be again, I find that I avoid whatever (or whomever) it was that caused the twisting. (It is said that a cat won’t touch a hot stove twice. That cat also won’t touch a cold stove. I kind of feel that way sometimes too.)

Grudges are a persistent feeling of ill will or resentment resulting from a past insult or injury. (Thank you, Dictionary, for your assistance!) Persistent – like a sore heel or knee that troubles me every time I walk. That’s how grudges act. Visiting me with negative thinking, encouraging me to remember the insult. Even after I have consciously forgiven the offender.

If you, too, are plagued with these persistent feelings of ill will, I have a suggestion. First, be kind to yourself. Gently review the offense, acknowledging the insult or injury. Ask Jesus to help reframe it, to see it from a different perspective. Offer forgiveness to the offender. This doesn’t free the person from their responsibility in the matter. It only frees you to move on. When the nagging feeling visits, remind yourself that you have forgiven the offense and choose to let it go. Finally, be kind to yourself. It takes time for wounds to heal. Some injuries seem to heal almost over night; other injuries take a long time.

If the foxes are allowed to run through my life, the love I have for others will be destroyed. I will be the one who suffers. It won’t impact my eternal future, it just changes how I experience the day to day. I don’t know about you, but I want my days to be filled with hope and joy. So I’m going to catch the foxes and get them out of my life.

25But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.

Mark 11:25

Chaos! That is how I describe my current situation at home. I’ve been taking out the winter decor and replacing it with something more springlike. In the process, I piled the replaced items on the table, the countertop or the floor. After a few days seeing my house in disorder, I was losing my peace of mind and felt a little crazy. I paused to evaluate what was going on inside.

It came to me during our Sunday morning worship service. As I listened, I heard the Lord speak, “Chaos,” into my mind. As I meditated on it more, I realized it isn’t the BIG things that cause the trouble. I respond differently to major events. It’s the accumulation of little piles along the way. It is my response to the collection of bits and pieces that distract me and keep me from living a joy filled life.

15Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!

Song of Songs 2:15

I know, I know. The verse is from the Song of Songs and it’s about love. How will I ever apply that to every day life and stacks of home decor?

My relationship with Jesus is what is at stake when I don’t keep the foxes out of the vineyard. Scripture compares that relationship with marriage. I think it fits perfectly.

Foxes come in many forms. This week it was my piles of stuff. Another day it will be something else. For my daughter, it is the twists and turns of selling a home and preparing to build. It might be raising children, job responsibilities, health issues, family conflict — possibilities are endless.

What does it mean to catch the foxes? For me, it meant taking a bit of focused time to put away the decor items I wasn’t using. For my daughter, it meant capturing thoughts before they swirled out of control. The enemy just loves to take the little foxes and push them to run through your life creating chaos and disruption.

Today I invite you to identify the chaos. Where is it coming from? What are the foxes? What would it take to catch them?

Sunday I developed a really painful back. It was so painful, in fact, that in order to step into our vehicle, I had to lift my leg up with my hands. It was too painful for my leg to do all the work. In addition, I felt like my muscles were seizing up on me. I asked my Nurse Daughter about it and she said, “Like rigor mortis?” And I said, “Yes, kind of like that.” She quickly dismissed that possibility because I was still breathing. Whatever!

I wanted a quick fix. Massage, chiropractic adjustment, ibuprofen — whatever would bring the quickest relief. No massage or chiropractic appointments available for days. Ibuprofen was handy, but didn’t provide enough relief.

I have been exercising regularly for over twenty years. I had tools in my belt that would help me find relief. They just weren’t quick fixes. To use them required me to be patient but more than that, it required effort on my part.

So, out came the foam roller, the muscle gun, the Skinners and the work out clothes. Monday evening I felt much better and after a few days, I am in a much better place.

Why do I tell you all of this? There are times when I am facing something – like anxiety or worry, doubt or depression, fear or confusion — and I want the quick and easy fix. I want to phone a friend or utilize some other quick fix when I really need to take a look at the tools in my belt. What do I already have I need to access?

If I am anxious do I need to take a few deep breaths and rehearse the truth? Depression – have I exercised or spent time in meditation? Fear – have I reaffirmed my trust in the Lord?

I want to turn your mind to Monday and Moses. God had clearly told him he would go before him in a cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night. An obvious sign of his presence, and yet Moses asked his brother in-law to go with them to find the best places to camp. He wanted a quick fix rather than trusting the longer, more difficult path.

Let me ask you — what are you experiencing today that you really want a quick fix to resolve? Are you willing to take a look at your tool belt and bring out what you already know to help through your current crisis? Will you take the longer more difficult path?

I still have a massage appointment and a chiropractor appointment, but I’m in a much better place now than I was five days ago. I might even be better prepared for the treatments to be efficacious.

I encourage you to be grateful for the “quick fixes,” but don’t be afraid to pull out the tools you already have and put them to use!

If I want my trust in God to diminish, focusing on the mess in my life accomplishes that goal. But if I want my trust in God to grow, expand, take over my life — what must I do to accomplish that?

3O magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt his name together.

Psalm 34:3

Did you ever try to start a fire with a magnifying glass? It is proven that if you take a magnifying glass and focus the light of the sun onto a piece of combustible material, the heat from the sun is intensified so much it will cause the material to flame.

If I magnify God in my life it works much the same way. Focusing on him, rehearsing not only what he has done, but his characteristics — the truth about him — burns up the mess of my life.

I was reading the New Testament account of the Gentile woman who came to Jesus seeking healing for her daughter. You can read it in Matthew 15:21-28. Jesus didn’t seem to have the time of day for her. The woman’s response — magnify Jesus. She worshipped him.

As I prayed this passage, I spoke the words, “I worship you!” and immediately I felt in my spirit the Lord ask me, “what does it mean to worship me?” I was silent a moment and then I realized it is to magnify him. Make him bigger in my life, more seen, more known, more trusted. Worship of Jesus changes who I am and how I approach life.

Today, get out your magnifying glasses — actually, they are probably already out — examine what you have been magnifying. The opinions of others, the hurts you’ve experienced, the disappointments of life? Whatever is biggest in our life is what you magnify. Do you need to turn the glass to something different? Do you need to make God bigger than the problems? Because he will consume them if you allow him to.

What kills trust? Perhaps there are many things but the one that came to mind today is this —- rehearsing the negative. As one blogger put it – meditating on the mess.

Recently, Dave and I spent a few weeks apart. He was in Florida for one week but then returned to Indiana alone while I finished things up in Florida. He amazed me learning to cook for himself, do laundry and keeping the house tidy.

When I walked into the house after six weeks I was pleasantly surprised. The dishes were washed, the counters wiped, no shoes accumulated in front of the recliner. Win, win, win!!

Upon closer inspection over the next few days, I found myself noticing the “mess,” the things that were not finished or cleaned up. It was easy to point out these areas of mess to him, except that didn’t set well with him and it didn’t honor all the ways he worked to maintain a tidy space.

The danger is when I focus on the “mess.” I may not say it out loud, but if I rehearse it in my mind, I’m still focusing on the mess. When I focus on the mess, I lose confidence in him.

All analogies fall apart at some point. Some sooner than others. When I focus on the mess of my life, God doesn’t lose confidence in me. I lose my trust in him. As I rehearse all the ways life disappoints me, I remain in a state of disappointment. When I turn that around and magnify all that is good and right around me, those areas begin to explode and the mess doesn’t hold me captive in the same way.

There is a simple song emphasizing the importance of praise to chase away a spirit of despair. It was written by David Ingles and popularized in the charismatic movement in the 70’s and 80’s. It seems to me it is based loosely on Isaiah 61.

1The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, 2to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, 3and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.

Isaiah 61:1-3

Later, Robin Mark from Belfast, Ireland. popularized a similar song. If despair is your companion, I invite you to take a trip down memory lane and listen to the song below. It might not be sung in our churches today, but it has a timeless message for anyone willing to listen!

5Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. 6Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. 7Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord and turn away from evil. 8Then you will have healing for your body and strength for your bones.

Proverbs 3:5-8

Recently, while in Florida with my daughter and her two children, I observed this in action. Actually, the opposite of this in action. Finley wanted to watch a movie but her mom told her she couldn’t. This didn’t seem good to her; her wisdom said a movie was fine right now. So she quietly took her iPad into the closet, shut the doors to the bedroom and the closet and started a movie for herself.

It took all of 30 seconds for Emily to notice the quietness of the room and the obvious absence of her children from the main living space. She quickly found the girls hiding away, watching their movie. It didn’t end well. There were tears, so many tears. It was a proud mama moment for me as I watched my daughter set boundaries for her children and then stick with them, even when Finley threw a fit.

Emily wasn’t trying to wreck Finley’s life by not allowing screen time. It was for her good, to benefit her. But in the moment, Finley didn’t trust that her mom had the best in mind for her. She trusted her own wisdom; she was impressed with herself for finding an alternative to obedience.

These verses are quite familiar — at least the first two. But I rarely read the last two. The reason I find it difficult to trust the Lord and seek him with my whole heart is because I’m impressed with my own wisdom. The consequences that come are often painful.

How are you tempted to lean into your own understanding? Impressed with your own wisdom you go astray and suffer in your body because of it?

It is never too late to turn around. That afternoon with the girls turned out to be really enjoyable. Before we knew it, they had turned the living room into a multi-room castle complete with princesses and dragons. It really was a better plan. I believe you can trust His plan for you too!

The account of the Israelites’ deliverance from Egypt is a beautiful revelation of God to the world through a specific group of people. God shows himself to be true to his word and completely reliable in providing everything the people needed. Were they always happy with the provision? No. The manna tasted bland after awhile; they remembered the fruit, vegetables and fresh fish in Egypt. They wanted variety; they wanted meat.

Food was not the only thing God provided for them. He provided guidance — his presence. The cloud by day and the pillar of fire by night were evidence of God’s presence with them. It was this Presence that led them through the desert and found them places to camp. When the cloud moved, they moved. When it rested, they rested.

21The Lord went ahead of them. He guided them during the day with a pillar of cloud, and he provided light at night with a pillar of fire. This allowed them to travel by day or by night. 22And the Lord did not remove the pillar of cloud or pillar of fire from its place in front of the people.

Exodus 13:21-22

36Now whenever the cloud lifted from the Tabernacle, the people of Israel would set out on their journey, following it. 37But if the cloud did not rise, they remained where they were until it lifted.

Exodus 40:36-37

It is no secret that Moses struggled with confidence in leading this large group of people to the Promise Land. Read again the first several chapters of Exodus to refresh your memory regarding Moses’ struggle with God’s ask to lead the people. His trust issue is highlighted again when he invites his relative to take the place of the cloud as their guide through the wilderness.

29One day Moses said to his brother-in-law, Hobab son of Reuel the Midianite, “We are on our way to the place the Lord promised us, for he said, ‘I will give it to you.’ Come with us and we will treat you well, for the Lord has promised wonderful blessings for Israel!” 30But Hobab replied, “No, I will not go. I must return to my own land and family.” 31“Please don’t leave us,” Moses pleaded. “You know the places in the wilderness where we should camp. Come, be our guide. 32If you do, we’ll share with you all the blessings the Lord gives us.” 33They marched for three days after leaving the mountain of the Lord, with the Ark of the Lord’s Covenant moving ahead of them to show them where to stop and rest.

Numbers 10:29-33

I understand Moses’ angst. There are times when I trust the Lord, but I sure would like someone with skin on to be with me. There is no evidence that Moses’ brother-in-law went with them, but there is evidence that the Lord continued to guide the people.

What about you? Are you in a place where the Lord is asking you to trust him? Yet there is a part of you that needs more assurance? Are you looking for something or someone to take His place?

Perhaps this declaration from Psalm 91 will help to set you in the right direction again.

2This I declare about the Lord: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; he is my God, and I trust him.

Psalm 91:2

I am going to do something next week I haven’t done since I started writing this blog 2 1/2 years ago. I am going to take a vacation. You see, even when I’m on vacation, I make sure something posts every day. In learning to be kind to myself, I am giving myself permission to pause my writing. So, today, I am leaving you with something to ponder next week.

Wednesday I checked my Instagram account and there was a post from Brene’ Brown. This is what she said:

This immediately struck a chord in me. I thought, “Yes! That is so true!” As I pondered this statement, I came to the sad realization how often I do this. I consider myself a positive realist. I am comfortable with reality, but I want myself and others to see the positive possibilities in the present reality, especially when it is difficult.

In doing so, I am not allowing the other person – or myself – to have a moment of grief, sadness, disappointment, angst – whatever it is – in the difficult moment.

Some of my best moments with friends have been when they didn’t just allow me to be in my disappointment. They joined me. I fear I haven’t always joined others the way I want to. If that is you, I am sorry. Learning this today has been uncomfortable.

I leave you with these words from Paul to the church in Corinth —

3All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. 4He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. 

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Perhaps this resonates with you in some way. I invite you to join me in learning to sit with others in their reality knowing that it’s okay to be uncomfortable with them. It just might be the best way to love someone.

Have a lovely week and I will be back with regular posts on Monday, March 15.

2Dear friends, we are already God’s children, but he has not yet shown us what we will be like when Christ appears. But we do know that we will be like him, for we will see him as he really is. 

1 John 3:2

Today I am giving you a word of encouragement. As I walk this earth, following Jesus, living like him as best I know how, it is discouraging to find my life doesn’t always reflect him as well as I would like. I stumble. I fall. I get back up.

I wonder what I will be like when I get to heaven. . . and I long for the day when everything will be clear. But one thing I know — I will be like him. I will see him as he really is and I will be changed in an instant. I am reminded of Paul’s words to the church in Corinth . . .

51But let me reveal to you a wonderful secret. We will not all die, but we will all be transformed! 52It will happen in a moment, in the blink of an eye, when the last trumpet is blown. For when the trumpet sounds, those who have died will be raised to live forever. And we who are living will also be transformed. 

1 Corinthians 15:5152

So, be encouraged today! If you stumble and fall – it’s okay. Take a deep breath and get back up. We all stumble. We all fall. We can all get back up.

You already are a child of God. You will one day be just like Christ! In a moment, in the blink of an eye — you will be transformed.