Rules have a place. If you or someone in your home is a football fan, this is an exciting time of year — the NFL playoffs. Without rules, the football field would be chaotic. Even with rules in place to govern play, the players routinely push the limits. This is evidenced by the number of flags thrown by referees during the game.

Cooking is another arena where there are rules to follow. Typically in the form of recipes, certain rules need to be learned in order to be a successful cook. The best cook is one who doesn’t need the written rule, but follows an internal guide to produce the best food. The internal guide develops when the “rules” are internalized and a recipe no longer becomes necessary to ensure a tasty creation.

Rules in sports and cooking guide our behaviors. We can easily refer to the rule and know where we went awry. Years ago I had a friend who, by her own admission, was not a cook. She even had trouble following a recipe. She once made a crockpot ham recipe that called for 6 tablespoons of brown sugar. I don’t know how it was written – 6 T or 6 tbl – but she thought it was 6 pounds (6 lbs) of brown sugar. Unaware of proper ratios, she obediently worked 6 pounds of sugar into the crockpot of shaved ham. Needless to say, the end product was uneatable.

One arena in which rules don’t work well is relationships. The best relationships are governed by internal gestures of love and compassion. Continuing to read in Paul’s letter to the churches in Galatia, he is baffled by their behavior.

1Oh, foolish Galatians! Who has cast an evil spell on you? For the meaning of Jesus Christ’s death was made as clear to you as if you had seen a picture of his death on the cross. 2Let me ask you this one question: Did you receive the Holy Spirit by obeying the law of Moses? Of course not! You received the Spirit because you believed the message you heard about Christ. 3How foolish can you be? After starting your new lives in the Spirit, why are you now trying to become perfect by your own human effort? 4Have you experienced so much for nothing? Surely it was not in vain, was it? 5I ask you again, does God give you the Holy Spirit and work miracles among you because you obey the law? Of course not! It is because you believe the message you heard about Christ.

Galatians 3:1-5

Why in the world would I return to following the rules when the Holy Spirit is a awarded because I believed that Jesus died for me?

Because rules are measurable. I can see the checklist and know when the list is completed. If the rule says I shouldn’t go to a bowling alley in order to be righteous, I can clearly know if I’ve been to a bowling alley. It is much more difficult to measure if I am growing in love for others. Rules make our faith objective, measurable.

But rules don’t foster healthy relationships. God is after a relationship with you. I love the example of Abraham. Genesis 15:6 reminds us that Abraham believed God and he was declared righteous because he believed. He didn’t have the law to follow; the law came over 400 years later.

In what ways are you tempted to follow the rules in order to be righteous? Do you reach for the rule book rather than listening to the Holy Spirit who lives inside? Do you trust the rules more than the internal voice? Are you afraid you will get it wrong?

Paul has more to say, so come back tomorrow for more on living without the rules.

21I do not treat the grace of God as meaningless. For if keeping the law could make us right with God, then there was no need for Christ to die.

Galatians 2:21

In what way do I treat the grace of God as meaningless?

I think there are more ways to do that than is possible to count. Anything I rely on in addition to Jesus’ death to cover my sins, to make me right with God –causes me to treat the grace of God as meaningless.

After Paul visited the area of Galatia, sharing the gospel — Jesus gave his life for our sins, just as God our Father planned, in order to rescue us from the evil world in which we live — some people from Jerusalem called Judaizers came behind him and, in essence, told the new Christians Jesus wasn’t enough. Sure, Jesus died on the cross but in order to be right with God the people needed Jesus AND… in this case, circumcision.

It might not be what a person experiences today. But there is plenty of Jesus AND… floating about. Jesus and what I wear. Jesus and the spiritual gifts I receive. Jesus and the songs I sing. Jesus and the way I am baptized. Jesus and church attendance. Jesus and . . .

What comes to your mind when you consider Jesus alone as the way to be right with God? Do you expect more than that from others? Do you feel others expect more than that from you? Do you find yourself defending a “Jesus AND…” position?

For many years I said I believed it was Jesus alone that saved me but I was quick to add extras. Extras that were put on me by others but also extras I adopted on my own. Until it began to suffocate me. I found I couldn’t move or breath. I lost mobility and vitality. Slowly but surely, the life inside me ebbed away and I felt sad, forlorn and lost. The list of requirements was so overwhelming; as much as I tried, I never got it quite right. I knew on the inside I was failing miserably, but I attempted to put on a good front.

Until I couldn’t anymore. Then Paul’s words to the Galatian churches rang like music in my ears!

19For when I tried to keep the law, it condemned me. So I died to the law—I stopped trying to meet all its requirements—so that I might live for God. 20My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Galatians 2:19-20

I no longer treat the grace of God as meaningless. It is everything to me. I am made right with God by Jesus’ death on the cross where he paid for my sins. And that ALONE is what makes me righteous. Nothing else. Nothing at all!

Everyone struggles with something. It might be pride, recognition, approval or a dozen other issues. When I meet someone who overcomes what I struggle with, I am in awe. How does he do so easily what causes me so much struggle? The Apostle Paul is one such person for me.

Saul, whom we first meet in Acts 7, opposed Christianity in the most violent way. Acts records this about him: “(Stephen’s) accusers took off their coats and laid them at the feet of a young man named Saul. . . .Saul was one of the witnesses, and he agreed completely with the killing of Stephen.” He took a staunch stand against Christianity and did everything possible to eradicate it. Until he meets Jesus in a most dramatic manner. Turn to Acts 9 to read about that. It is what Saul, now turned Paul, does that makes my jaw drop.

He immediately changes his course of action and goes from ardent persecutor to passionate evangelist. Just. Like. That. He didn’t ask anyone’s permission. He didn’t check his script with anyone. He didn’t wait to be acknowledged by the other apostles in Jerusalem. He took seriously his encounter with Jesus and took to the streets. Amazing! This is how Paul says it for himself to the churches in the area of Galatia.

1This letter is from Paul, an apostle. I was not appointed by any group of people or any human authority, but by Jesus Christ himself and by God the Father, who raised Jesus from the dead. 10Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant… it pleased him 16to reveal his Son to me so that I would proclaim the Good News about Jesus to the Gentiles. When this happened, I did not rush out to consult with any human being. 17Nor did I go up to Jerusalem to consult with those who were apostles before I was. Instead, I went away into Arabia, and later I returned to the city of Damascus.

Galatians 1:1, 10, 16-17

After Paul’s conversion, he knew that if he stopped to ask the opinions of others, he would be sidetracked. His time would be spent convincing others of his conversion rather than living out his conversion. It is evident he knew that pleasing humans ultimately meant he wasn’t pleasing God. It’s great when humans are pleased with our service of God, but it doesn’t always happen that way.

I know I can’t be guaranteed the approval of man in my service of God. But why is it so easy to be distracted by the approval of humans? What must I do to live with the kind of confidence Paul displayed?

The challenge I face is to live with my eyes on Jesus, to take my cues from him. I want to be so familiar with him that I notice the slightest movement of his eyes to guide me left or right, to feel the slightest pressure on my arm to pause or move more quickly, to trust so completely I take the next right step without hesitation.

What keeps you from living boldly? Is there a champion from scripture that illustrates how to do it well? What practices do you need to adopt to be that person?

The day started fine. I enjoyed the luxury of sleeping a bit longer, then grabbed my coffee and headed to the lanai to read and pray. I picked up a book I bought several weeks ago and began reading. After about an hour, I realized I was no longer remembering what I read. I layed the book aside and decided to do an errand.

A heaviness settled over me I found difficult to shake. Returning from my errand, I grabbed some lunch and then went outside to continue my reading. The heaviness increased. Uncertain if it was the word of the Lord to me or the taunting of the enemy, I found a trusted friend — my husband.

He asked what was bringing me down and I started to share excerpts from my reading and how it impacted me. Even as I shared, I felt the darkness begin to lift. As long as I stayed in my own mind with only my thoughts, the heaviness persisted. But when I shared it and brought it before another who had my best in mind, who could help me to see it objectively, the darkness could not stay. As scripture says, “the light exposes the darkness.” Ephesians 5:13

Today I finish this week with the invitation to bring your darkness into the light. Whatever is working in your mind, causing despair or darkness, bring it to the light by sharing it with someone – someone you trust, someone who can be objective.

Freedom will be yours.

Happy Friday! Happy Weekend!

I admit — I am a bit of a brain geek. A keen interest in the brain and how it functions drives me to read books on the brain. The really great news is that the brain has an elastic property about it that enables it to heal and change with the proper treatment, supplements and medication. There is no such thing as a “normal” brain – thank you to the Fall (recorded in Genesis 3) – so no one is normal. We are all a little off our rockers. That levels the playing field, doesn’t it?!

As I finished reading This is Your Brain on Joy by Dr.Earl Henslin – a book I recommend everyone picks up to read – this quote caught my eye.

Seeing yourself as a victim means your identity comes from the belief that the past is more powerful than the present. It is the belief that your failures of yesterday are more real than the reality of today. It is the false belief that other people from long ago are responsible for who you are now, either your emotional pain or your inability to grow.

This is Your Brain on Joy, Dr. Earl Henslin, p. 205

Bullies come in all sizes and shapes. This one happens to be named Your Past and it can be loud, obnoxious and intimidating. So how does one face the bully of the past and get beyond it? How does one live in the present today not the failures of yesterday? How does one take responsibility for who she is today?

There are many excellent portrayals of ordinary people overcoming bullies in movies past and present. It might be worth the time to check out this website that cites eight movies inspiring individuals to be better.

Or you can follow Paul’s excellent advice in Philippians 3.

12I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. 13No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, 14I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.

Philippians 3:12-14

As children of God, we can also rest assured that our past is thrown into the sea of forgetfulness as a benefit of atonement by Jesus’ blood. In common words, when we said yes to Jesus, our debts were paid in full. They were put in the “PAID” file.

13You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins. 14He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross. 

Colossians 2:13-14

12He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.

Psalm 103:12

Your Past might be the bully you face on a regular basis, but he is only a loud noise. He can be silenced, unable to bother you anymore. Begin here with these words of truth. It may be helpful and necessary to reach out to a trusted friend, counselor or spiritual advisor for additional help, but there is hope!

4But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world. 

1 John 4:4

Bullies operate on the premise of fear. Igniting fear by claiming to be bigger, scarier, faster and more powerful than others, they make a person feel small and vulnerable. In order to keep the bully happy, the bullied gives in to the demands of the other. It might be for money, favors or tasks, but a person acquiesces because that seems the only viable option.

Enter the enemy of our souls. Monday, I exposed his lies as a twist of what is actually true and encouraged you to take a stand against him by the word of your testimony. Not today Satan!

Tuesday, I reminded you that Jesus’ voice is always speaking albeit quite soft. It requires a trained ear to hear to his gentle invitations and quiet reminders. His voice encourages, affirms and invites me to intimacy.

Today, I want to remind us that the spirit who lives within is greater than the spirit of the world. I know. We already know that. But it bears repeating. You see, my experience tells me that the bully is loud and brash. He throws his weight around to intimidate and scare me. He wants my lunch money; he wants me to do his homework; he wants me to carry his backpack. Monday we said, “Not today!” Today we are remembering that the Spirit within is greater than the spirit of the world!

Music speaks to me. This song ties it all together into one message. It’s a great proclamation of my position in Christ — adopted, forgiven, I belong — and that the enemy can’t take away who I am or what I have in Christ because the Spirit in me is greater than the spirit in the world! I pray it blesses you as well.

I hear voices in my head. I hear my own voice sometimes affirming me, sometimes chastising me, sometimes encouraging me, sometimes just talking about whatever I am doing.

I hear the voice of the enemy. His voice discourages, intimidates, deflates, shames, blames and squelches me. I am getting better at identifying it for what it is — lies!

There is a third voice I hear. It is quieter and filled with inspiration. This voice invites me to intimacy and regularly encourages me to step out of the box and try something new.

11“Go out and stand before me on the mountain,” the Lord told him. And as Elijah stood there, the Lord passed by, and a mighty windstorm hit the mountain. It was such a terrible blast that the rocks were torn loose, but the Lord was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake. 12And after the earthquake there was a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire. And after the fire there was the sound of a gentle whisper. 13When Elijah heard it, he wrapped his face in his cloak and went out and stood at the entrance of the cave.

1 Kings 19:11-13

Jesus’ voice is often soft and gentle, accompanied with a smile. He laughs easily and is delighted in me. His words carry promise and delight, hope and joy, affirmation and acceptance.

Some say Jesus doesn’t talk to them. I wonder if it’s because we listen for loud proclamations or hurried words spoken harshly that tell us what we’ve done wrong. We aren’t listening for quiet whispers of love and invitation.

When my children were babies I attuned to baby sounds. I heard the slightest movement of their tiny bodies in the bed or the soft sound of the very first cry in the night. I knew their voices and I listened for them. I didn’t have to focus on it or remind myself to listen. It became second nature. I learned the sound and then I heard them.

Perhaps a little practice hearing God’s voice is needed. He speaks to us in many ways: music, scripture, nature, books, phrases in our minds, prayer, words of others. If I’m not sure something is God’s voice or something else – like my own desires or the taunts of the enemy – I test it. First, I consider my own visceral response to what I heard. If it is accompanied with shame, blame and intimidation, I identify it as not from God. If it brings warmth, acceptance, affirmation and inspiration, I identify it as from God. If that is not enough, I examine what I heard in light of scripture: does what I heard line up with God’s revealed word to us?

Years ago I sat with a young woman as she struggled knowing if God loved her. I tried a simple exercise and suggested she ask Jesus this question, “How have you loved me today?” She had a response almost immediately which she didn’t want to share with me. It was personal and, I think, she had a hard time accepting what Jesus said to her. You see, it wasn’t what she would say to herself; it was an affirmation of being chosen, loved and valued. It lined up with scripture even if she didn’t want to accept it as true.

Take time today to notice Jesus around you. It might be in the sparkle of the sunshine, a song on the radio at just the right time or the loving words of a child. Practice listening for his voice, sensing his presence and see his face smiling on you. Let me tell you friend, he is crazy about you!

This might just be the best news you’ve had today!

1The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the Lord God had made. One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say …?”

Genesis 3:1

9This great dragon—the ancient serpent called the devil, or Satan, the one deceiving the whole world—was thrown down to the earth with all his angels.

Revelation 12:9

44. . . He was a murderer from the beginning. He has always hated the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45So when I tell the truth, you just naturally don’t believe me!

John 8:44-45

Some days I hear voices in my head. Don’t be concerned! It isn’t the type of voices that require medication or counseling to resolve.

Sometimes, it is my voice. A little self-talk now and then is necessary to keep myself from getting off track. I also find it necessary, at times, to silence the other voice in my head.

This second voice is one I don’t like. His voice is always accusing, intimidating, discouraging, shaming, blaming . . . you know the one. Too often I listen because I have listened in the past and what he says sounds true to my natural ears. It might be an echo of something someone has said to me in formative years. It might be a taunt about something I am doing or attempting to undertake. But mostly it is accusing.

I read the other day that the enemy, Satan, the serpent — whatever is your preferred designation for him — is lying to me when he speaks. If I hear the whisper, “You can’t do that. No one will follow your lead!” He is lying which means I absolutely should do it and people will follow.

If I hear the taunt that I am broken beyond repair, I can know that is a lie and there is hope for me and wholeness is possible.

If he says I am good for nothing and I might as well take that next drink, do the drugs or look for fulfillment in pornography or sexual fantasy — that is a lie and there is a better road.

As I have considered the taunts and lies I hear, I remind myself that the natural thing to do is believe him. That is what Jesus said to the people who were so accustomed to listening to the lies of the devil. He said, “So when I tell the truth, you just naturally don’t believe me!” (Because you are naturally believing the enemy!)

That is sobering to me. Why do I find it so easy to believe the lies of the devil who is only interested in my destruction and turn away from the truth of Jesus who wants my freedom?

If you take nothing else from this today, hear me on this point — the devil is lying to you. He doesn’t want you to prosper in any way. He wants you to flounder in shame and accusation and be too intimidated to step out in the life God has for you.

There is a way to overcome the enemy! Scripture says in Revelation 12:11 “they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony.” It is by standing firm in the truth that Jesus shed his blood to set you free and speaking out that truth! I believe this song might just help us all make that proclamation on this day!

If Rap is more your style, then give this song a try! Whatever you do, run this truth through your mind on repeat: NOT TODAY SATAN!

Always do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.

Sunday morning I woke up feeling ill. As the day progressed, I spiraled even further until I could barely function. The simplest tasks were arduous to accomplish and I wondered how I ever accomplish hard tasks like walking downstairs. Well, okay, that’s an exaggeration; but I felt pretty crummy.

My best on Sunday was very different than my best on Monday and even different than my best on Tuesday. When I learn to recognize that and allow myself to accept my limitations, whatever might be the cause, I am a better human being.

Taking this concept one step further, it helps me to give grace to others when I don’t make assumptions, but always believe that others are doing their best and their best also varies from day to day.

17And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.

Colossians 3:17

Every day the sun greets me differently. In northern Indiana, it sometimes doesn’t show up at all. Other days, it is bright, shiny and casts sparkles and light throughout my home. I am grateful every day for the sun, even when I can’t see it because it’s always there and I will see it again.

Like the amount of sun, my abilities, energy and responsibilities vary by day. Every day I am grateful and do my best, even when it is less than I expect. I am not called to DO, I am called to BE!

How about you? Do you find your best varies from day-to-day? How easily do you flow with those changes? Perhaps this agreement is for you!

Always do your best!

Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can transform your life.

Isn’t it so easy to assume we know what someone else is thinking or why he is acting a certain way?

Recently, Dave and I stopped at a beachside restaurant for a late lunch/early dinner. This particular restaurant served lunch from 12 p.m. to 3 p.m. and from 3:30 to 5:30 they had Fins Frenzy, a happy hour event during which they served small bites and our favorite sushi! We arrived just before 3 p.m. knowing we would have to wait but seats are first come first served so we found a place on the deck overlooking the water and prepared to wait. And we waited. And we waited.

Our server seemed particularly distracted and unwilling to make time to stop by and see what we wanted. It was easy to make assumptions about why he might be out of sorts. Maybe he was exhausted from a long shift (probably not since the restaurant had only been open three hours). Maybe he was new and unfamiliar with the restaurant’s vibe. Maybe he was sick. Maybe he was just a grump. Maybe he didn’t like the way we positioned the furniture and table. Maybe he was just not a good server.

We discussed asking him what had him distracted but decided to give him a break instead. We didn’t have to be anywhere and we certainly weren’t going to starve anytime soon. When we let it go, we were able to enjoy the afternoon and our view of the ocean while we waited in total comfort for our food and beverages.

Paul says it like this. No matter who we might encounter or what their disposition is, let peace and love rule.

14Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. 15And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.

Colossians 3:14-15

Another evening I was putting my granddaughters to bed and read several books before settling them down to sleep. I laid down with the youngest until she fell asleep and then went to lay down with the oldest until she was sleeping. When I got up to go to Finley’s bed (the girls are in the same room), she asked me if I was mad. You see, we read a book on emotions and what your face looks like if you are experiencing a certain feeling. She thought my face looked mad, so she asked. I was glad she did and I received the question with gratitude. I thanked her for asking me and assured her I wasn’t. I said I didn’t know why my face looked mad. I believe that opened the door for her to learn to not make assumptions but to ask good questions instead.

Let’s be more like Finley and ask questions instead of making assumptions. You’ll be glad you did!

Don’t make assumptions!