Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
This one is a challenge. When I taught school we had an acronym we could recall quickly when a student or situation was getting under our skin. It was “QTIP”. I actually considered carrying one with me all the time because at times this was brutal. It means “Quit Taking It Personally.” When a student came to school surly and rude, it was pretty easy to take it personally. When I was told, “I’m pretty sure this isn’t what my parents are paying for” it was easy to take it personally.
Maybe you have a co-worker who makes life difficult every day. One day he/she is charming, agreeable, cooperative and the next day he/she is harsh, argumentative, stubborn. Who is this person? (Maybe that is you and reading it here just made you see it.) It’s easy to take it personally.
Read: Colossians 3:13
It really is true that nothing others do is because of me. I’ve run this scenario through my thinker a dozen different ways and I always come out at the same place. The reactions and responses of others is not because of me. Good or bad, the other person’s response is their own.
The reverse is true as well. As much as I would like to think they are, my actions are not someone else’s fault. An interaction may trigger a response, but I respond out of my own dreams and my personal reality. Good or bad, my responses are my own.
Paul says we need to have grace, to make allowance for the faults of others. Forgive them. You will save yourself a multitude of trouble and heartache. It is so difficult to maintain a grudge. They require so much feeding and tending. If we aren’t careful, they die! (Please read with much sarcasm.)
So, how about it? Are you taking the actions and moods of someone personally? Do you feel it is an affront against you? Consider what life might look like from his/her perspective. How are his/her dreams dictating responses that feel bad to you, but worse to him/her? Make an allowance for the faults of others.
Don’t Take Anything Personally.