It doesn’t matter if you follow the rules or if you look like someone else or if you make yourself miserable to tame your propensity to sin. It matters if you are being transformed into the likeness of Christ.
Read: Galatians 6:15-16
The way in which God transforms your heart is up to him. It is your responsibility to listen for his voice and obey when he speaks. Transformation of the heart is the goal and Jesus is our model.
I have to say, when I read these verses my heart does a little dance! It matters if we are being transformed…period. So I receive God’s grace and mercy because I live by this principle and I am a part of the new people of God!