In 2006, Dave and I undertook the arduous task of building a house. It was our second go around, but this time it was different. We built our forever home!
There are so many choices and decisions to make when building. It easily overwhelmed me. To be sure, many of the decisions can be changed down the road such as paint color, carpet, hardware – well, shucks, you could even paint your cabinets if they are stained, as ours are. These changes can be made quite simply, without much trouble or cost.
Other changes are more difficult. If you discover the kitchen is too small, that’s a bit of a problem. Not impossible to change, but certainly not something to undertake in a weekend.
In the beginning stages of building, my daughter and I went to Montana to visit my parents. I knew there would be some decisions to make during that time, but I was sure I was well equipped to make them from afar.
One such decision was the window trim color. At the time there were only four choices: white, forest green, terratone, sand. I like having only a few choices. When Dave called to ask me what I wanted, I was positive sand was the color! So he passed that on to the builder and the builder ordered the windows. There are 52 windows in our house.
A couple of weeks later, we chose siding. As I looked at the siding colors next to the sand window trim, I knew I had made a mistake. The color “sand” was too yellow and I really wanted white. But the windows were already ordered. Dave and I talked about it and then sat down with our builder to ask the all important question – can we change the window trim color.
Of course, everything can be done for a price. It seemed like a lot of money just to have a slightly different shade of window trim. We pondered it for a few days. And then our builder gave us the best advice ever! Many things in the process of building can be changed quite easily. If you don’t like the countertops in a few years, it isn’t a big deal to take them out. But you will see the windows every single day when you go in and out of your house. (The window trim color also determined downspouts and corner trim color on the exterior.) It will bug you, it isn’t easy to change, windows are expensive. We decided to pay the change fee and make the trim white. It was the best decision we ever made.
At the time, it seemed like a lot of money just to change our minds. And it was. But, to be honest, I never think about that cost. But I do love looking at the white trim on my house.
I might have become accustomed to looking at sand trim. Maybe I would have even liked it after awhile. But I think I always would have been a little bummed that we didn’t spend the money to change it. Because in the long run, it really mattered.
Some things in life really matter. Other things will be forgotten before you go to bed tonight. It’s important to know the difference.
Read: Philippians 1:9-11
In this letter, Paul was concerned that the believers in Philippi knew what really mattered. As I read this short letter last week, I was arrested at the words “what really matters.”
So often I get distracted by things that really don’t matter. I will forget it in two days and it definitely won’t matter in two years. But in the moment, it seems like a really big deal.
This week I want to take a look at things that really matter in life and maybe even expose some things that don’t matter at all. I hope you will join me in this journey.
I would love to hear what you think. What matters to you? Do you spend too much time thinking about things that don’t matter?
Until next time…
May the Lord bless you and protect you.Numbers 6:4-26
May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you.
May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace.