Today as I write in a local coffee shop, I can’t help hearing the conversations around me. Shhh…don’t tell anyone I am listening.

I hear all kinds of holiday plans. These cousins coming in, those people going there, destinations near and far, family in to sort through dad’s things, conflict anticipated, nerves already on edge.

I observe human connection over coffee and pastries. Moms with littles sharing drinks and cookies, taking time away from home to keep the kids entertained and the mom sane. Friends gathering to discuss life and hardship, joys and dreams.

I see the gentleman who comes in for coffee to go. As he takes the coffee I hear him say, “I don’t do crowds much. I make too much of a dunce of myself to do that.” And my heart is a little bit sad. I bet he’s a really kind person with a sensitive heart and so much to give!

I love all of what I am seeing and hearing. We need one another. We were never meant to do life alone. But it’s not easy.

As you think about tomorrow, what do you need this year? A quiet, intimate dinner? Loud, boisterous family reunion gathering? A fireplace moment with your memories of the loved one who isn’t here anymore? The joy of celebrating the new ones in your life?

Here are a few thoughts from Romans 12 to help guide you through the holiday.

Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them.

Love each other with genuine affection,

…take delight in honoring each other. 

When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them.

Always be eager to practice hospitality.

…pray that God will bless them. 

Be happy with those who are happy,

…and weep with those who weep. 

Live in harmony with each other.

Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people.

And don’t think you know it all!

Romans 12:9-16

The last phrase might just be the most important one, keeping me humble throughout the day and focused on others rather than myself!