It really does matter what we think. But more than that, it matters what we believe. False beliefs allowed to run rampant through our minds destroy our emotional health. Just as eating too much cake and pizza will destroy your physical health, believing the wrong thing causes suffering too.
This week I am exposing four false beliefs that shipwreck your emotional well-being. The first is: I must meet certain standards to feel good about myself. The truth of God’s Word is that you are significant because he made you that way.
The second is: I must be approved by certain people to feel good about myself. The truth of God’s word is that you are loved and accepted just like you are.
The third is: Those who fail are unworthy of love and deserve to be punished. The truth of God’s word is that Jesus took all our punishment on him. I read today that “failure is the compost out of which success can grow.”
The final false belief I want to expose is:
I am what I am. I cannot change. I am hopeless.
The first thing that comes to mind when I read this is those who use it as an excuse for their own poor behavior. Then my mind drifts to those who use this as an excuse for the poor behavior of someone else — “That’s just how she is!” Finally, my mind lands where it ought to have started – I remember times I believed this for myself.
I remember times when I was stuck. Stuck in behaviors fueled by the lie that I would never be any different. I will always___________ — you fill in the blank.
God’s word says something different! I am not defective because in Christ, I am a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17); healed (Isaiah 53:5); a work in process (Philippians 1:6); his work of art (Ephesians 2:10); perfect (Hebrews 10:14); although once dead in sin, now alive in Christ (Ephesians 2:4-5).
No one is destined to stay stuck in behaviors fueled by lies. Destructive behaviors don’t have to be a part of who you are for in Christ, there is freedom. Again, if you find yourself caught in this lie, find a trusted spiritual advisor and share your struggle. Identify the source, bring it before the Lord and experience the change truth imparts as it floods your heart!
This song really spoke to my heart. It highlights the reality that we are more than the choices we make, we are remade! Give it a listen!
I would add one thing:
God created us for community and relationships and the walking out of what God has shown you is nearly impossible to consistently do alone.
I am so thankful that God/Jesus/Holy Spirit walk closely and faithfully with us, sending others from his body to walk with us too. You may need to ask and for sure you have to be willing to be vulnerable and willing to accept someone encouraging, admonishing, redirecting, loving you.